Living in the deep canoes and burrows of an over-worked overthinking mind, writing an account of the fundamental woes makes perfect sense.
Overthinking is like the pestering, itching skin of winters, it is like a bad addiction which is not visible to people around us but deep inside it is hampering our peace of mind, our growth, and our happiness.
One of the common phenomena of an Overthinking Mind is thinking about the Other. Now, literary thinkers might want to debate on the subordinate and secondary status of the Other, but, for the Overthinking Mind, the Other is above Self.
With constant thoughts and anxiety about the Other’s thought for each millisecond of a second, we practically live in the minds of the Other. Our lives are not ours but of the Other and collective Others.
Each activity we undertake, each word we speak, each action we perform, we don’t think how it would affect us? Instead, we think how the Other would perceive it and this gruesome task is not over here, we analyze it, we build a complete novel on it. We assess their take on it, how would it shape our image in their minds and this goes on and on till we are preoccupied with another act of ours and the perception of Others on it and this goes on and on.
This post is to put it out to the world, what it is like living in such a mind. What it is like scrutinizing each thing you do and not from your perspective, but that of the world.
It is not easy, and there is no end to it, however, the realization of a possible solution dawned on me and it’s time I share it with the world, with people like me.
It goes like this, whenever you have the urge to go on the dreaded ride of self-exploitation, just stop! Yes, STOP. What is done is done, and the reaction of the Other is not in your hand, it is arbitrary, it is like the unforeseen future with endless possibilities and we are stuck on just some of the many. So, it is time to stop.
It’s like the roll of dice you don’t know what number would come up and neither can you control it. Then why go through the gruelling affair of something that doesn’t even exist.
When we can’t stop the Other from building their perception why are we stopping ourselves from doing what we want? Why are punishing ourselves for our instincts, when we are clearly valuing and blindly accepting the Other’s instincts on our actions.
Write that message, post that picture, say what has been bothering you and stop, stop before you think what the Other would think, thinking about yourself instead. With the new year around the corner, this is one of the crazy resolutions I have given myself and to the world of beautiful minds like me.