Did the aliens really build pyramids in Egypt? Are we controlled by some secretive groups? Like all major conspiracy theories out there in the world, the one that fascinates me the most is the theory of “self-love” and “Self-acceptance”.
As I dwindled with my own agonies of gaining weight coupled with pangs of self loathing, buried deep under the piles of negative baggage, I couldn’t help but wonder, is Self-acceptance really a thing, or a sham?
As I marched on the journey to demystify self-acceptance theory, I began my pursuit of self-love, like many others.
For anyone who doesn’t know, the theory goes like this, “all you gotta do is love yourself and accept yourself which will automatically change everyone’s perception about you and you will live happily ever after”. And that’s the exact problem! No one explains how?
It’s not like miraculously people will look at you differently and you’ll be oh-so-happy! I think, we need to work on ourselves, not for others, but, for our own selves. I believe that we need to constantly improvise so that we, can love and respect our own self. And that is what is “self-love”.
Self-love has today, lost its meaning. We love ourselves from the perception of others; judge ourselves from others point of view. We love ourselves the way others love us, while it should be the other way around. Are you hitting the gym so that you can love yourself? Is that cup of green tea on your table because you want to get fit or because you want to fit into the society’s notion of beauty?
Is it really self-love or the need to be loved?
Be a version that you can be proud of, that makes you happy. How will it solve our problems? Well, the problem is not on the outside but, it is within! Our inability to self-love rids us of confidence. Others will see what we show them, the version that we choose to show them. They feed off of our representation that we offer them. Do you wanna show them the version you don’t like? They won’t like it either!
So there are two ways, you can either love yourself and be comfortable with who you are, or, if you are not comfortable, then make efforts to improve that version. We just need to measure ourselves on our parameters, not with the scale of others.
We need to bring back the ‘self’ in “self-love”.
Fat, skinny, dark, pale, tall, short and the list goes on, but the theory remains the same. Let yourself know love!
Love thyself!