Walking through the wardrobe of relationship specimens of our generation of millennials, many varieties come to the fore. While variation is at the core of all the relationships, one thing runs common in all of them like blood running in our veins!
That one convention, rather a tradition of all the relationships is the lack of “Effort”.
We have become a generation of easy-going, good-at-goodbyes, not-giving-a-damn fellas walking down all our relationships with the same attitude.
Friendship, Dating, and all other everyday connections and relations we make over and above the familial bonds are in name and not in essence. Best friend, sister-like, friend, brother, all this and many other bonds are named but how many are followed in its true sense.
We have build a pretence, or maybe we live in a pretence of easy living where finding replacement of any individual in our lives is as easy as making a cup of tea!
We find replacements faster than we get refunds from online shopping sites.
Are we so busy or are we just too lazy to put effort into our relationships? or have we become so hollow that relationships are just for convenience and social media posts?
We are just looking for an excuse to abandon it all and run from it that we leave no room for fixing problem let alone the expression of care and attention. Perhaps we are scared of attachments, we are scared of working on problems? We are the generation of effortless living.
We are more comfortable with goodbyes,
than standing by.
Effort is now a figment of imagination,
And convenience is the only foundation.
Our generation has forgotten what a real friendship means, what it means to put in efforts to build a bond, how caring and attention are all part of it.
We have become a generation affluent in hiding rather than expressing.
We have forgotten that words mean something, when we call someone close friend, it’s not just a tag, it’s a bond, built on love, care, attention and all the things that are based on efforts.
We have become legit runners, running away from responsibility, emotions, feelings, expressing. All these phrases: “I’ll be there for you”; “I’ve got your back”; “you can count on me”; now remain just meaningless fancy words, song lyrics and nothing more.
Where have we lost the most important ingredient of building relations, where are the efforts?
Maybe same day deliveries and online shopping has ripped us of this word effort, we don’t know the effort involved in going from shop-to-shop to find that perfect dress.
But, all is not lost, we need to blend in some effort in our relations and stop crying and cribbing on the short liveliness of all the relationships we have in our lives. We blame the time, we blame the people, but, we forget it’s made of you and me!
We are these people that we are blaming each second of each day and lamenting on the deterioration of our generation.